You will begin your e-mail counseling with Reverend. Board by taking the A.P.S. Report. The Arno Profile System is a clinical diagnostic tool used by the National Christian Counselors Association to assess a person's God-given tendencies and temperament. It is not a test. It is simply a series of questions whose answers help Rev. Board identify one's inborn temperament.
The A.P.S. Report is specifically valuable to adults who were abused as children. It tells us who we were before the world became involved with us and helps us to identify our true selves from the false and harmful beliefs of our childhood abuse. And to be clear, it is valuable to anyone in a relationship, married or otherwise, or simply to any individual who seeks to know himself or herself better.
In Isaiah 40:1, Jerusalem still had 100 years before it would fall and then her people would go on to face 70 years of exile. Knowing his people would face this adversity, God tells Isaiah that in the meantime to comfort them. Today, God also knows of the sorrows that adult survivors of childhood abuse face and, like Isaiah, he has called for MTT to bring adult survivors comfort.
An example of temperament: Melancholy: Melancholies in Inclusion are easily insulted and hurt. They have an innate tendency to punish themselves and to feel worthless. What if the melancholic adult survivor of childhood abuse has attributed these feelings all his/her adult life entirely to the abuse? What if we can take some of the sting away by realizing that "part" of the pain is actually wired into our spiritual genetics?
Step 1: During your first session, Rev. Board will provide you with an Arno Profile System Response Form. The A.P.S. Report is not a test, it is simply a series of questions which will help Rev. Board identify your inborn temperament, which helps to provide a clear photograph of you and some of the things you are experiencing.
Step 2: During your second session, Rev. Board will ask you to share some of your feelings and the problems you are experiencing.
Step 3: During your third session, Rev. Board will be teaching you about yourself and your unique needs. This session will help you to understand why you may be experiencing inner conflict and conflict with others.
Step 4: At your fourth session, Rev. Board will work with you and examine each individual need you have. You will be working together with Rev. Board in an attempt to identify which needs are being met and which needs are going unmet in a way which is causing you harm.
Step 5: Now that Rev. Board has helped you identify your unmet needs, you and Rev. Board will begin to find ways to meet your needs, which will not cause you harm or harm your family and loved ones.
MTT and Reverend Sherri L. Board, PhD, choose E-Therapy (e-mail therapy) to help heal fellow survivors. Rev. Board believes, especially for adult survivors of childhood abuse who may be experiencing a lot of shame, that meeting with her online via E-therapy causes one to feel freer and able to disclose more freely his or her memories, thoughts, and feelings than meeting face-to-face. E-Therapy is simply less intimidating and more convenient.
During your scheduled sessions with Rev. Board, you will communicate back and forth via e-mail to reach the goals discussed above.
One's temperament refers to how he/she responds emotionally to others, how much love and affection one needs. Most people's temperaments are a blending of any of the five. (Pure temperament types are somewhat uncommon.)
Below, discover some of the strengths and weaknesses of each temperament.
- Supine - Dependable, gentle spirited, loyal, victim, easily hurt
- Choleric - Practical, born leader, intelligent, critical, demanding, inflexible
- Sanguine - Trusting, energetic, optimistic, impulsive, egotistical
- Melancholy - Sensitive, inventive, empathetic, low self-image, moody
- Phlegmatic - Patient, dependable, good listener, stubborn, procrastinator
- Expressed Needs: how we express ourselves toward others.
- Wanted Needs: how we want others to behave toward us.
The A.P.S. Report analyzes these needs in three different areas:
- Inclusion (Intellect):
How are we socially oriented? Do we need a lot of people around us or do we prefer less people?
- Control (Will):
How much do we need to control others? Or how much do we prefer to be controlled?
- Affection (Emotions):
How much affection do we need to give? And how much affection do we require from our deep personal relationships?
Our temperament, no matter what we go through or have been through in this life, never changes nor can it be changed. But it can be modified. Who God created us to be, our temperament, and who we become through learned behavior, can be entirely different. We need to find out who we really are and find ways to become the person God wants us to be, the true self, instead of the person we have learned to be, the masked self.
"The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers."
M. Scott Peck